Aisukohi's posts
Posted in ┤▒├ Wildfire's World ┤▒├ All welcome, all the time - come say Hi!
Posted 2 years ago
lol yay for teamwork. Technology can be so rude! I don't use my computer a ton, but when I do, seems like it's always asking me if I want to update it and just ugh! Lemme alone!!
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Posted 2 years ago
Been a long week for me, but I get to enjoy the weekend off. *o* I don't have any plans, so probably gonna veg out and get some cleaning done.
Posted in Well that's done
Posted 2 years ago
@Totalanimefan: Thank you for that read. <3 I think I'm pretty good with steps 2 and 3, but 1 and 4 are things I could work on. I'm not as social as I'd like to be IRL, but maybe this year I can get out more and build more relationships.
Posted in Well that's done
Posted 2 years ago
My mind is a mess of thoughts with what's been going on with my life recently, so I'll just cut to the chase and go into detail with future posts as needed.
Basically, on New Year's Eve, I made the decision to sever the last point of contact I had with my paternal grandmother (and by extension, paternal grandfather). Long story short, over the last several years, our relationship has become progressively more strained as she is just a toxic person who can't acknowledge that she lacks morals and empathy for her own family, namely, my dad. 2 years ago shortly before Thanksgiving, my dad and my family had made the decision that we wouldn't visit my grandparents anymore. That didn't mean we weren't open to seeing them in a mutual location, but we would not go to their home anymore. Seeing as my grandparents have always been a large part of my life, and wanting to be a good person, I kept my grandmother as a friend on my Facebook so that she could continue to receive updates with my life if she so chose. Ever since this rift, she's hardly reacted to my content, which is fine and dandy, but when she does react, she always manages to leave a snarky comment that circles back to this whole situation--something that the rest of the world doesn't need to know, and is frankly inappropriate when it doesn't relate at all to what I posted to begin with. So New Year's Eve she did it again, blaming my "behavior" on my dad because "he always controlled me and always will" and I just lost it. I first hid her comment and contemplated messaging her to chew her out about all the years of abuse we've endured from her, but thought the better of it and just blocked her entirely.
I should feel happy, right? But I'm back and forth with emotions and I'm not sure how to cope. I'm very aware that it's normal to grieve over severed relationships no matter how necessary that severance was. I just wondered if someone had advice or can relate or whatever.
I apologize if something didn't make sense here as I'm pretty fried from IRL happenings not related to this situation. But I needed to put this somewhere because I don't like this unhealthy feeling. If anyone needs clarification or more details, I'm happy to divulge to an extent.
Thanks in advance for reading. <3 My responses may be slow, but I'll pop back here to check when I have a free moment.
TL;DR: I severed my last point of contact with my grandmother who's been a big part of my life up until recently and need ways to cope.
Basically, on New Year's Eve, I made the decision to sever the last point of contact I had with my paternal grandmother (and by extension, paternal grandfather). Long story short, over the last several years, our relationship has become progressively more strained as she is just a toxic person who can't acknowledge that she lacks morals and empathy for her own family, namely, my dad. 2 years ago shortly before Thanksgiving, my dad and my family had made the decision that we wouldn't visit my grandparents anymore. That didn't mean we weren't open to seeing them in a mutual location, but we would not go to their home anymore. Seeing as my grandparents have always been a large part of my life, and wanting to be a good person, I kept my grandmother as a friend on my Facebook so that she could continue to receive updates with my life if she so chose. Ever since this rift, she's hardly reacted to my content, which is fine and dandy, but when she does react, she always manages to leave a snarky comment that circles back to this whole situation--something that the rest of the world doesn't need to know, and is frankly inappropriate when it doesn't relate at all to what I posted to begin with. So New Year's Eve she did it again, blaming my "behavior" on my dad because "he always controlled me and always will" and I just lost it. I first hid her comment and contemplated messaging her to chew her out about all the years of abuse we've endured from her, but thought the better of it and just blocked her entirely.
I should feel happy, right? But I'm back and forth with emotions and I'm not sure how to cope. I'm very aware that it's normal to grieve over severed relationships no matter how necessary that severance was. I just wondered if someone had advice or can relate or whatever.
I apologize if something didn't make sense here as I'm pretty fried from IRL happenings not related to this situation. But I needed to put this somewhere because I don't like this unhealthy feeling. If anyone needs clarification or more details, I'm happy to divulge to an extent.
Thanks in advance for reading. <3 My responses may be slow, but I'll pop back here to check when I have a free moment.
TL;DR: I severed my last point of contact with my grandmother who's been a big part of my life up until recently and need ways to cope.
Posted in A Giveaway for Your Common Needs - Come hangout with us!
Posted 2 years ago
@Totalanimefan: Yeah the way I see some people act in public...yikes! Makes me wonder how they got that far in life without getting punched in the nose or something to make them stop being jerks.
lol snow is just not something I can imagine living in, but who knows, I may change my mind later in life. I just hate the idea of everything associated with maintenance and snow, from shoveling, to driving safely, to pipe maintenance. I love the idea of visiting places where it snows, just to look at it, but not living in it.
Some cities I'd like to visit in no particular order off the top of my head include Seattle, San Francisco, Miami, NYC, Boston, Chicago, Charleston, and Portland. I'm sure there are a ton more, but those are just from the top of my head for cities in the U.S. Honestly I'd be open to traveling just about anywhere new so long as it wasn't a huge pain to get to and it wasn't a dangerous area.
lol snow is just not something I can imagine living in, but who knows, I may change my mind later in life. I just hate the idea of everything associated with maintenance and snow, from shoveling, to driving safely, to pipe maintenance. I love the idea of visiting places where it snows, just to look at it, but not living in it.
Some cities I'd like to visit in no particular order off the top of my head include Seattle, San Francisco, Miami, NYC, Boston, Chicago, Charleston, and Portland. I'm sure there are a ton more, but those are just from the top of my head for cities in the U.S. Honestly I'd be open to traveling just about anywhere new so long as it wasn't a huge pain to get to and it wasn't a dangerous area.
Posted in honeyglazed ★
Posted 2 years ago
I can find some mochi here in some of the Asian stores, not fresh, but boxed. My problem is, I'm too picky with most of the flavors they have, so I don't buy it often lol. I love the sesame kind and am looking for a good matcha kind.
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Posted 2 years ago
@Starlight: I'd like to buy your Miss Mary Annette and Perennial Premier for volts if they're still available? 7k total?
Posted in A Giveaway for Your Common Needs - Come hangout with us!
Posted 2 years ago
@Totalanimefan: I can't imagine working retail forever either, not only because of the lousy pay, but because of the abuse that comes with it. x-x
I've never been to Philly or DC, but wouldn't mind visiting either or both. I love the show It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia haha. Though it's been a while since I've watched any of it. I have an uncle who lives outside of Harrisburg, but the way he talks about the snow sometimes...no thanks! xD There's a whole bunch of major cities in this country I'd like to visit someday, even though I know there will never be enough time to explore all the good stuff lol.
I've never been to Philly or DC, but wouldn't mind visiting either or both. I love the show It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia haha. Though it's been a while since I've watched any of it. I have an uncle who lives outside of Harrisburg, but the way he talks about the snow sometimes...no thanks! xD There's a whole bunch of major cities in this country I'd like to visit someday, even though I know there will never be enough time to explore all the good stuff lol.
Posted in honeyglazed ★
Posted 2 years ago
Oh that's right, you did mention mochi and noodles lol.
Belated merry Christmas everyone!! Hope everyone had a great one!!
Belated merry Christmas everyone!! Hope everyone had a great one!!
Posted in A Giveaway for Your Common Needs - Come hangout with us!
Posted 2 years ago
@Totalanimefan: Funny you say now's the time to talk about family stuff, because at work that's when we tend to get the most inquiries for potential residents. Meaning, people get together, and they realize their elderly loved ones might need a little extra help, so they come to us to see if we can provide a better quality of life.
That's great that you're closer to your parents than you were before. I lived about that far from my parents for like half a year, which honestly was longer than I expected, but I can't say I regret the experience either because I got to see a lot of things and meet great people. I often miss that area, but I wouldn't move back unless my parents were gone and I knew my siblings were okay on their own. Then again, the thought of having to deal with snow several months of the year doesn't sound very appealing. xD
Does your sister and her boyfriend know which part of the east coast they'd like to move to?
That's great that you're closer to your parents than you were before. I lived about that far from my parents for like half a year, which honestly was longer than I expected, but I can't say I regret the experience either because I got to see a lot of things and meet great people. I often miss that area, but I wouldn't move back unless my parents were gone and I knew my siblings were okay on their own. Then again, the thought of having to deal with snow several months of the year doesn't sound very appealing. xD
Does your sister and her boyfriend know which part of the east coast they'd like to move to?
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Posted 2 years ago
lol now if they could come up with those little vacuums that could scale walls/obstacles, that would be neat!
I'll be working tomorrow and just overall busy, but just wanted to wish everyone a merry Christmas!!
I'll be working tomorrow and just overall busy, but just wanted to wish everyone a merry Christmas!!
Posted in honeyglazed ★
Posted 2 years ago
Those pictures are so pretty!!
Belated happy birthday Masa!! Did you do anything special to celebrate?
Belated happy birthday Masa!! Did you do anything special to celebrate?
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Posted 2 years ago
Totalanimefan:
@Aisukohi: ah I see. How big is that grandparents’ house? Maybe it’s enough for them plus the kids that watch over them. I would say 50’s is pretty good. My parents are both 61 but don’t take care of themselves. My mom always had this stupid notion that because her parents died young that she would never live to be past like 65. And now she’s 61 with no retirement. I would totally buy a house with a ADU or a ‘granny flat’ but my mom and I butt heads a lot and don’t get along. Push came to shove I would though. She wants to live in Ireland when she retires. (My parents are divorced). My dad is still in FL. Luckily his new wife is a nurse and she is nice. I couldn’t see him ever leaving FL. I like FL but the job market is poor and it’s so far dependent. It’s one of the reasons my husband and I moved to DC. It’s also in between my parents. 2 hours on the train I’m at my mom’s and two hours on a plane I’m at my dad’s.
Anyway back to your parents would you be able to share the responsibilities of elderly parents with your siblings?
@Aisukohi: ah I see. How big is that grandparents’ house? Maybe it’s enough for them plus the kids that watch over them. I would say 50’s is pretty good. My parents are both 61 but don’t take care of themselves. My mom always had this stupid notion that because her parents died young that she would never live to be past like 65. And now she’s 61 with no retirement. I would totally buy a house with a ADU or a ‘granny flat’ but my mom and I butt heads a lot and don’t get along. Push came to shove I would though. She wants to live in Ireland when she retires. (My parents are divorced). My dad is still in FL. Luckily his new wife is a nurse and she is nice. I couldn’t see him ever leaving FL. I like FL but the job market is poor and it’s so far dependent. It’s one of the reasons my husband and I moved to DC. It’s also in between my parents. 2 hours on the train I’m at my mom’s and two hours on a plane I’m at my dad’s.
Anyway back to your parents would you be able to share the responsibilities of elderly parents with your siblings?
My grandparents'/parents' house is 3 bedrooms and 2 baths, not entirely sure how many square feet. It's a bit crowded since my 4 siblings live with them. I'm sure most if not all of us could share responsibilities with taking care of them later down the road. Right now, if something were to happen tomorrow, it would probably be between my oldest brother and myself since only he and I have income/jobs. But my parents also made arrangements with one of my dad's sisters that if anything ever happened to them, should any of my siblings still be minors, my aunt would become their legal guardian. I know eventually we'll all sit down and talk legal stuff like power of attorney, advanced directives, etc. It's really helpful to learn about this type of stuff in my line of work.
That's nice that you live right in the middle of your parents lol. I love quick plane flights myself. If only they weren't so expensive! Or at least, I'd rather not pay for the dirt cheap flights because I know they're not comfortable and I honestly worry about their overall safety (never mind if Covid wasn't a thing). Are you an only child?
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Posted 2 years ago
@Another Movie Addict: I wish we had more holidays or occasions to dress up like that. But I'm glad you have a group you can do it with more often. :)