Xanthan's posts

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@pachi: You do not know what you have done lol I must play this game. :) I love me some disney villains. I have a whole wall in my apartment of disney and well, Ursula is probably my favorite. Though I agree with a comment way back there that Yzma is so underrated. "Pull the lever Kronk!"

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@GodsandPunks: thank you for the compliment. I am learning how to accept praise and compliments instead of shrugging and blowing them off. It is still weird though, cause I am just me. LOL But definitely hit me up anytime. I love our chats. You're story rings so familiar with others I have spoken with. I, too, love all of humanity. Every single person has value and is special and worthy of love, respect, and equality.

It can be really hard helping others just to turn around and feel alone or isolated. To feel as if by sharing your own thoughts or story others would shy away, rebel, or not even pay attention. I am so sorry that you feel as if you cannot share with others. I offer you my discord and voltra messaging if that helps :) From my experience, I had to learn to stand my ground with people. I needed healthy boundaries. If you need me there for you, which is fine, but you cannot be there for me in return, that is a one sided friendship and I'd rather say goodbye and hurt really bad in the moment and let it dissipate over time, than to start to have hope only for it to be ripped away and have the pain wash all over me in an unexpected time of need. Take the bandaid off all at once, not slowly. I have also learned that there is not an S on my shirt and I cannot save everyone, ie I am not superman. The closest I have come to it is from my son, he says I have a B on my shirt.....not for that lol .....but for Best Dad Ever :)

I think you have something inside of you that you haven't yet seen yourself. And once you recognize that. Once you validate your own self and slow down with the saving people ;) you will see significant change in all areas of your life. I will make a post sometimes soon on the power of NO and what it means to those in helping professions and those who just help too much.

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@0v7: my bf is getting me into League and Overwatch

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@pachi: hey hey hey....i wanna know more about that game you were spesking of. I do love some disney and your fan art was really well done. I am not a visual artist but am completely amazed at the talent on here.

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@0v7: that is so very awesome. Congrats. I am happy for you and this huge blessing. Start scheduling appointments! LOL

This week i found myself being accepted into a PhD program I had wanted to get into. I got a new job. And I began playing video games again after many many many years lol

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@Colan: my ex used to play league. I loved his passion for it and wanted to try and get into it but he never really helped me start. Then the way he acted when he played just wasn't the most receptive. But my new bf has gotten me into League and Overwatch. I am finding some new magic in gaming and I haven't felt this way since....geez old school rpgs like FF3 american and chronotrigger came out lol

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@GodsandPunks: Yes! All too often "we" the collective, will get with someone we know may not be right for us, but they have so much potential. They spin a good yarn. They have dreams and so on. And all of those things are great things to have, don't get me wrong. The issue here is, not loving and liking, and accepting someone for who they are and where they are at. What if they don't get their big break and are an unemployed actor living from gig to gig with prospects slowly fluttering away? Are they still good enough, and everything you still wanted in someone when you thought they were the next idk Robin Williams, or Jodie Foster? Ya know? I see potential in everyone, but it is latent potential. Not many really care to do much about it. More people, of those I do know and talk to, haven't done anything but sit around and maybe look for jobs during this pandemic. Me, I am taking free courses, paid courses, school stuff, I am wanting to better myself and the more that I can get free or discounted, the more i do, because I am poor. I don't mind my struggle, but I am definitely going places. Hopefully I found someone strong enough to love me as is, where I am, and also strong enough to endure the ride. LOL
And yes, compromise is totally fine. Just make sure the relationship dynamic doesn't become too one sided for long periods of time. That is when it begins to get toxic and you become used etc. I have friends that may not have much money, but they have a large yard, so hey, how about I'll get x y and z for dinner, let's do it at your place so the kids can play in the yard etc. and you come up with somehting that works for the best of the group as a whole unit, not the individual. You got this darlin. I know ya do. If you would like help on learning how to reach out, be vulnerable without being a door mat, and living your best life, you got my name and number.....hit me up LOL

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@Cattafang: Welcome to Voltra. Glad you came and stopped by. I have wanted to join Dappervolk. I have heard good things about it. If you have any questions just holler. We are quite the friendly bunch and our forums stay quite active.

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@GodsandPunks: No you are 100% ok. Get it out. Share your story and perspective because chances are someone else out there needs to hear it and can relate. The place I make for anyone in my life is their own place for sure. Expectations lead to disappointments, and the worst thing you can ever do to yourself and another is love them and keep them around because of what they could be, should be, might be, etc. Meet people where they are at in life, don't hold them to your standards. I only ask that you be you and do your thing. That is what I like about all my friends, mobile and IRL. They are 100% themselves and they are beautiful for it.

Thank you for the Kudos. I have been super emotional since getting the news. I have had great support though from my bf and my son and all my friends. I just got my canvases back that were stretched and mounted for me. I am so stoked :)

Tonight's topic: have you listened twice as much as you've spoken today? After all, isn't that why we have 2 ears but only 1 mouth?

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@MoodyBats:
@vitreus:
@Totalanimefan:
@0v7:

Thank you all! I am truly excited and blessed for sure. This is just one more step in the direction i wish to go.

@xvz: thank you. Higher education is one means to an end. I want to help people be their best self and to live their best life. I feel like educational inequality is part of the problem. I also like working with communities and encouraging diversity. I am a strong believer that the world's problems are everyone's problems and so you need to ask yourself if you are being part of the problem or solution? I wish to be part of the solution. :)

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So, lately my life has been a bit unpredictable, and rough. I did my best. I practiced what I coach others to do. And well....I am currently dating a wonderful person. They get along with my kiddo swimmingly. I have painted my apartment even though I am still looking at buying a house. But today I got the best news in a long while, and I am still emotional and beside myself. I was accepted into a dual Master's and Ph.D. program for human and social services. I have decided to specialize or have an emphasis in Higher Education. I wasn't even supposed to hear back from them until maybe around Friday however they were impressed with my academic level and my submissions along with my admissions package. Now to find some funding to help me get through the next few year. This is a fast track program and so my goal is to be Dr. Xanthan come 2024!!!!!!!! Time to buckle down and show my kiddo that hardwork and helping others truly pays off!

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@GodsandPunks: "Yield when the tides of battle are not in your favor, but never submit. Never give up. " Very sage advice and sound words. And I didn't mean to come across passive. I do understand the despair and dark places that passivity can lead you to. Had I given up, or been passive, I wouldn't have the news I just shared. I would still be mourning lost family members, lost loves, unrequited loves, and I would be wallowing in selfpity. But I do know that i can bend and not break.
We just all want to make our place in this crazy world. Most often people want to be validated and have their voices heard. We long and yearn to belong, to be given a chance to be someone's someone. I am content and then some with my current standings in life, and with the people I have around me. I count you as a huge blessing. You and @DevilkinBoi: are both amazing people and I enjoy chatting with you day in and day out.

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@DevilkinBoi: So no jalapenos stuffed with cream cheese and deep fried? lol

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@kaichoukai: Hey there, and welcome back. I believe we talked briefly before. Glad to see ya around. Is Flight Rising the game where you raise dragons? I think I have heard of it but never played :( I have considered getting on dappervolk. I like the art and avi and pet style mixed with rpg. Have you played Dappervolk for very long? Any advice or tips for someone wanting to start out on it for the first time?