@Ruby: I am the same. I want to be in comfy clothes, wrapped up in my down comforter as a burrito with arms, and with slippers on. i love the cold.
Her issue is that it's in her name. And she doesn't wanna be left on the hook if we can't pay it, which, i get, but like... Just put it in our names then, It's not that big of a deal.
Yeah, they are very happy.
Yeah i get that. It's a good thing that your grandma isn't a "flight risk," at least. I'm sure a part of it is the dementia, but i'm sure a bigger part is that's just how she is and what she feels like she needs to be like. I'm sure someone with a bigger psychology background can explain why old people are grouchy often, but i can't. It would make sense if she's scared with the changes and that that's her reaction is to be grouchy, but past that, and the fact that she's always been grouchy is probably something else all together. I think dealing with family is hard without any mental issues, but dementia makes it so much more difficult.
Today we went to the grandparent's to sit with Gram while my mother in law took Gpa to the movies, and gram was in and out of lucidity, so it was a taxing day. And while Tyi was with me, i think it took a bit more out of me because she talked to me the most and it's so hard to follow conversations with her when she's not lucid. We were watching the second jurassic park movie with Chris Pratt, and gram kept saying how the dinosaurs were real live animals and that she had gone where the movie took place, and usually i'd be like, yeah ok, but it was like the middle of a conversation with her about how it was a fictional movie and the places shown weren't real, so she was like half lucid during it. Idk it was rough. And then she got really upset because we were waiting for Tyi's mom and gpa to get back to the house to eat and she kept asking for pizza or to just order her a pizza and we had to tell her we were waiting, and then when they got back, MIL went to pick up a pizza. And then she fought us on eating the pizza that she said she wanted. I kinda checked out once MIL was back though, because i was mentally drained.
Apparently they're looking into getting Hospice care for her for like a week next month so Gpa can get a break from her and go to Jersey (to visit his sister who i think also has dementia, but still a break from Gram).
As for your grandma, yeah, nursing homes are ridiculously expensive, and i feel like they should all be the same price, or at least the same general price range. But it's good that she's able to have people come to her apartment and help.
married 02/02/2020 
