Xanthan's posts

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@Kittyzilla: you can do this. Have you tried mind mapping? It is a great way to organize ideas and such. I have some links to free software and apps I've used. Start small. 5 minutes a day. You can do 5 minutes. Just sit and write. It doesn't have to make sense or be complete sentences etc. Just do it before bed. Take time and write about your day or doodle. Put thoughts to paper. I'm also on discord if Ya like or wanna PM

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@Kittyzilla: hey there. I'm a little late to the party but what's up? I considered nanowrimo. I have a story I began and got good feedback on thus far. It started out as an lgbt hallmark kinda story...ended up segueing into some more salacious bits but I have the makings for either lol

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@Wildfire: I don't always view victimization as a bad thing. I believe it is real and has a place. For instance, people from my past have, we'll let's say they had a hard time keeping their hands off me and to themselves. I am a victim. I carried that with me for a long time and took it to a very dark place at times. I now try to turn to that for strength. I still hurt and my mind can be a warzone at times. When these things first happened and even the second time and third I wasn't aware of how to act or react. I am a cismale and we aren't victims. We don't get abused. We don't talk about these things. We don't. Later on in life I learned that we do. And we can. And I will. So, victimization isn't necessarily a bad thing. And I don't think when it is legitimate that we allow ourselves to be victimized. Though I do know some who like to play victim in their own lives. Nothing is ever their fault. Always someone else wronging them. Both the hero and the victim in their life story yet 0 accountability. So...I can see many sides to this just as in life very little is strictly black or white.

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@Count Trashula: in my experience you can do one of two things. Go straight up or sideways. You can let it get the best of you and wear you down until you give up or give in....or you can continue your fight to get out until you have the strength, resources, and opportunity to do so successfully. In the meantime though your friend should reach out to others and share what's going on. There are resources available for all types of pain and all types of removal from those pains. As a life coach I have helped people to get out, pick themselves back up, and to rebuild by connecting them with resources. Reach out, help your friend, there's help and hope in some of the most unlikely places.

@Wildfire: so very true. That's why hurt people end up hurting people. It is also why addiction is a cycle and one that can run for generations. There are many reasons why people do not escape their pain when they need to or first realize it, but one thing we always have control over is how we react to those things life throws at us. We can't control others nor their mouths and opinions and we can't get them to keep their hands to themselves. But we can choose how we react and deal with it.

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Thank you for the replies. If I am not pinged I forget the things I post here and among other social media lol I have so many classes dealing with issues among communities and peoples and IDK I tend to have my own views and so I enjoy the feedback I get when I post here or in my hangouts thread. Thank you all again.

I feel pain is good for growth overall. It is pain that is a warning that something isn't right. I mean, there's a condition where people are not able to feel pain. How else are they to know that they have a splinter? How about if they cut themselves? I know there are other ways around it but pain in our first indicator generally. I think that goes for pain in our hearts too. Just my thoughts.

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Never in my professional or personal life have I ever seen someone transform themselves or their life NOT starting in pain.

Emotional pain. Mental pain. Physical pain. Spiritual pain.

Only when they decided they had had enough. When they listened to what that pain was trying to tell them. “This is not what life is meant to be. You are worth more than this.”

Only then did they take action to make a change.

If you’re stuck in pain right now. Listen to that pain. What is it telling you? What is it signaling you to do?

What if now was the time for you to take that pain and use it to motivate you towards something better? Like a phoenix rising from the ashes to fly towards greatness.

Your pain could be your greatest gift.

If you let it.

Thoughts?

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I can't wait to see what y'all have in store for us!!! Squeeeeeee

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@Totalanimefan: Thanks for the update. I been wondering about you and how everything went. It made me cringe just reading about the lack of bathroom access. Bless your heart. I saw the pics. I love your new place. IIt is so beautiful.

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My three thoughts for Today and Until next posting:

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@cartymar21: i am off on the weekends and so friday tends to go well on principle lol I am getting my kiddo ready for school monday and myself for school come the 31st. all in all it was a great day.

@GodsandPunks: I am used to being screamed at lol I know what you truly meant though. You got this. Remember what I said! Think about it! Believe it! Put it to work. :) you truly got this. I know for a fact you do.

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@cartymar21: I am sorry you have to go through that. Hopefully you can get everything you need and move forward. Recovery takes time my friend. Don't let yourself get down or best yourself up over it.

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@wormy:
@cartymar21:

TODAYS NEWS BRIEF

It’s time to say goodbye.

Goodbye to anything you have that you wouldn't buy again.
Goodbye to any relationship you have that you wouldn't start again.
Goodbye to every way of thinking that you would never adopt again.

When all of the things you have in your life are things that you use and love, you discover a very productive and powerful feeling.

Here are some takeaways for today:

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@cartymar21: hey man, how are you ? glad you found you way over to my corner. Voltra been treating you well??


@GodsandPunks: you're always on my mind :) been keeping quiet because i knew you were having family time and recouping. Hugs.