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I hate my mother.

At least EIGHT YEARS I have been going by 'he' pronouns. Recently it became he and they, both of which I am equally comfortable with.

But my 'mother' still 'slips up'. During an argument with my husband over text messages last night, she straight up referred to me as 'she'.

When he called her on it, she of course made excuses instead of apologizing. (She later told me that she did apologize, as if unaware of the fact that I'm capable of reading the messages myself... which she shouldn't be, because I told her that.)

She continued to make excuses as to why she should be allowed to slip up... after eight years. When he called her on using the wrong pronouns when I'm not around, she called him mean and a liar, even though she does do that and has admitted to it.

He told her repeatedly that she's hurting me and she told him she didn't care. She said that she's tired of there being 'conditions' in our relationship, as if I should be fine with her still calling me 'she' after EIGHT YEARS. But it's not even that she just slips up, because she joined a bunch of groups of FB called 'I love my daughter!' when she only has sons! She stated that if we can't accept that she 'makes mistakes' (again, after eight fucking years), she doesn't want us in her life.

Good fucking riddance, bitch.

Then, when she was backed into a corner, she lashed out and told him that it was him who was causing me hurt, because he kept pointing out that what she was doing was wrong. Apparently she thinks he's telling me lies and that I would be completely fine with being misgendered if he wasn't there to tell me it wasn't okay. Because, you know... all non-binary people would be fine with it if he wasn't around to tell them it hurts.

This woman is toxic. I feel blessed to have her gone from my life. Under her rule I was miserable, constantly misgendered, and criticized at every turn. She belittled me being the head artist of an avatar site, belittled me for not having jobs (despite being DISABLED), belittled me for not being able to do the things she wanted me to do. She expected too much of me too quickly, telling me I needed to be able to sew purses to sell them when I had just started learning to sew. She treated me like dirt...

...And she still is. She won't change. She'll always pretend she's the victim, even when she's the abuser. Even when it's pointed out that she's the abuser.

Again, good riddance, bitch. Just know that when you come crawling back trying to start up a conversation again (but she wont apologize. She never has and never will), I will slam the door so hard in your face it'll break a second time.