Tomyum's posts

Is that name from Undertale? Great game!

How big are the bombs? That is nuts. Any idea where they are from?

@UmberMouse: It doesn't sound like they want to be loyal to one person. If that is the life they want to live you need to either take it or leave it.

Every poly relationship I have seen has ended with people being left behind as they get older and being alone. It looks super miserable. It is fun when you are young and can pick people up but you don't stay young forever!

You deserve to demand someone be there for you and only you! If you can't get that here you need to find it somewhere else. What are you going to do when you are old?

What do you want? Do you want to dedicate yourself to someone who can also dedicate themselves to you? Do you want a trusting relationship with a stable future? Or do you want adventure, excitement, and meeting new people all the time to have romance with?

I don't like the idea that people can be picked up and put down like that. It leaves no stability. It breeds jealousy. It doesn't leave anything long term to build. If you want to do that you are free to. But it comes at a cost!

What do you want?

@kegs: It's obvious. You are repulsed because you are systematically planning everything out. What romance is there planning a date with a stranger and meeting knowing they probably want you and that is all there is? You want romance! You want something that is spontaneous and not all planned out and rote. You don't like them because they aren't fun.

What was that old song? Girls just want to have fun? You need to figure out your own mind and follow the clues. Most dudes aren't fun. You keep meeting them like it is a chore. Why do you put up with that?

@kegs: You are not alone. The more choices you have the pickier you get. That is how we are built! The big problem is that this all takes time and you waste all of your time on it.

There are a lot of online dating studies done. Women go after 20% of men and mostly ignore 80% of them. But almost all men will message anyone they consider attractive enough. This means 20% of guys are getting all of the attention and have an abundance of choice, while 80% have almost no choice. Meanwhile women have too much choice across the board and will end up meeting men who also have too much choice. This means everyone will just keep picking from their endless list and only anyone who is either perfect or too fed up of the game will settle. Online dating encourages predatory behavior because these men will always have a "next date" and will act out because it doesn't matter. Okay maybe not all of them but many do!

More people than ever are not having sex. It's true! Look up the Millennial sex gap. We are killing ourselves and it isn't your fault. It is the fault of us having too much to pick and being simple human brains.

This place is like anxiety central. All aboard!

Read about the paradox of choice. I think we do not understand what is in front of us. It is easy to be in the moment but you need to look at the big picture and appreciate the time we have.

Eleven!

That is super cool! I used to love that game.

Do you have a link to it?

Hi I hope you have fun!

Wow that is crazy. Are you in a big city?

I love the BEBOP poster!