We're having (more) issues with my mother in law/my husbands extended family. I don't remember if i told anyone, but my husband's cousin and 4 of her kids came down to florida on sunday and are staying with us. Well, the 3 boys are 9, 9, and 6, and they're LOUD. always talking over each other and yelling. So this morning around 9:45, while Tyi and i were trying to sleep, they're all yelling, their mom gets on their case about whatever it is (she's loud too), and Tyi and i don't have a door on our room- just a blanket hung up for privacy. So I'm woken up by them being loud and i wait a while to see if they're about to leave or if they quiet down. they didn't. So i finally got out of bed (which was a challenge because Tyi was blocking my exit a bit) and put on a shirt and popped out of the room into the hall and i said "Hey, tyi and i are trying to sleep, can you please keep it down?" And i was speaking to the room, but i guess the cousin thought i was just talking to the boys (but i meant her too), and she said hastily/snappily "We're about to leave." so i was like, "okay." And then she went to the hallway (where the rooms are) and i was about to go to the bathroom, which is between the rooms, and i said to her, "Hey I just want to let you know that i wasn't trying to be a bitch or anything." (I didn't know if i came across like that, so i was covering my bases. Sometimes i can't tell my tone.) She just ignored me and told her youngest to get his swimming suit on, which at that point i was about to enter the bathroom, but his trunks and shoes were in there, so i pointed it out and let him change first. And then at that point the cousin told me they would have left sooner but her niece said to wait for her but she lives 2 hours away and they weren't going to wait and it ended up that she's not able to go to the springs anyways. which to that i was like "oh wow. i hate when that happens." So i figured things were fine, because they left right after that.

So by that point it's almost 12. I got myself a bowl of cereal, and went to lie down and try to sleep a bit more, which i did, cause the house was quiet. So when i woke up around 3:45, i find a group chat to me and Tyi with his mom, saying "Hey no disrespect but sleep at night because I cannot keep children quiet during waking hours after they slept all night. I really don’t know what the issue is with them" to which Tyi replied that he knows he should be asleep at night but it's hard for him. (we've been working afternoon shifts for the last 6 years, and adjusted our sleep schedule so we were waking up right before we went to work, because that's what you do when you work a day shift, so why would a later shift be any different? And she KNOWS we've been on a night shift type schedule for the last 6 years.) And she replied " not you, [9yo] was loud this morning and [rena] yelled. And I’m not going to try to keep them from being kids during the day so you all can sleep. That’s not ok for them to sleep all night and then quiet all day till you all wake up. Sorry but not fair. I really don't know what the issue is with [Rena] and the kids." which them being loud isn't even the problem, we're just asking that they don't freaking yell at or over each other and be considerate while we're asleep BECAUSE we don't have a door. And i'm sorry, i'd understand the volume control issues from the 6 year old, but the 9 year olds should be able to watch their volume when they know other people are sleeping. She also said that i yelled at one of the 9 year olds, but i really didn't yell. I was just reminding everyone we were trying to sleep and don't have a door and to please not be so loud while we're trying to sleep. But apparently we're in the wrong because we're up late *shurg*

My issue is that the cousin told Tyi's mom instead of talking to me or him about it. His mom wasn't here when it happened, there's no reason to involve her other to just talk crap about us behind our backs.

Even if i went to bed at like 11, it wouldn't matter because i sleep more than the average person. Seriously, it's like i sleep 12-14 hours a day. And i'm still tired after becuase i have chronic fatigue that's made worse by the house being so hot.

Also, yesterday, The cousin left the 3 boys here while she went to run errands with her daughter and my MIL. No one asked if we'd keep an eye on the boys, and i had a headache, and Tyi was like, not my problem i wasn't asked to watch them, and basically ignored them. I on the other hand was really anxious about them being left to their own devices because they're rambunctious kids that tend to break things because they're careless so i kept an eye on them. I also had a headache, and i was tired because i hadn't slept yet from the night before. Their mom knew that too before she left. So at one point Tyi decided he was going to take a nap (he also hadn't slept), so i told the boys that they needed to be quieter (they were yelling at each other) and not have their devices on full volume (even with the door closed to the room they were in i could hear the phones like i was in the room with them There's like no sound proofing in this house.)

Also, last night Tyi's mom said she was just going to turn off the power to our room at night when she has to work the next day because he's loud sometimes (not really, he's quieter than the kids are... She also has a TV in her room with the volume on and she's across the house. so we really don't get that), and had messaged him about it and because he didn't see the notification she flipped out. She really doesn't treat us like adults and it really pisses me off.